Tuesday, January 24, 2012

life (lahyf) | one couple, two dogs...and a little baby

I've been holding off on writing this post for a few weeks now...8 to be exact. If you follow me on Pinterest, Twitter or Facebook, you may have noticed a lot of nursery pinning, complaints about virgin drinks and my weird cravings for spuds. All these hints were my subtle way of trying to break the news of being knocked up. Yup, we are in fact expecting. It hardly feels real and not a day goes by when I don't want to take another pregnancy test just to make sure the little one is still in there, but the morning sickness, and other un-godly symptoms I won't scare you with, have reassured me that it's in fact still in there.


Our friends and family have known for a few weeks now, but my hesitation with breaking the news wasn't because of the whole wait until after the 1st trimester recommendation. In all honesty, it's because I didn't know how to say it. We're so extremely excited, but sharing this news isn't like telling someone you're engaged. You have a ring to show for that - something pretty that you want to show off. When you're pregnant, especially in the early stages, you have nothing to show for. In fact, if anything you have to make more excuses on why you're acting weird. "I'm not drinking cause I'm detoxing.", "I'm eating more carbs cause I'm on a new diet.", "I'm not getting fat, I think I'm just losing muscle." These are all white lies you tell people to keep your good news a secret. Doesn't it seem a bit odd that joyful news is so deceiving in the very beginning?

Like I said, both Matt and I are SO excited, but with every bit of excitement comes fear.  I've always called myself "The Baby Dummy" and there's a reason for that, but luckily I have a fantastic support system that helps me overcome my fear:  My husband who watches my daily intake of tater tots like a hawk and ensures I take my pre-natal vitamins everyday; our families who are just as excited about our news as we are; my loving best friends who are always calling, texting and emailing to ask if we're doing ok; friends who are mothers that are generously offering up great advice; and other pregnant co-workers and blogger friends who I can share war stories with. 

Having these wonderful people in our lives really does help calm my nerves.  It's making this experience so enjoyable and less scary...because let's be honest, the fact that I'll soon have to squeeze (and I really mean squeeze) my way into pants with elastic waist bands, is the most frightening part of it all.

52 comments:

Small Town Gal said...

Congrats! Such happy news!

Lisa - respect the shoes said...

This is fantastic news, Tabitha - congratulations to you and your hubby!

Cait said...

Congratulations, Tabitha! That is wonderful news!!

Lindsey N. said...

Ohh congratulations! That's such exciting news!!! And I'm sure that even if there are elastic-waist pants in your future you will still look fab.

Lindsey Soup

eek said...

What wonderful news! I suspected after you made a cryptic comment about getting bigger over the next few months in an older post. Looking forward to reading about your new adventures.

City Girl Chicago said...

A huge congratulations to you!! That is very exciting, and I loved how honest this post is! I'd never thought about the fact that you basically do have to hide this fantastic news with white lies for a while... and how strange that would feel. Congratulations again! :)

misslarissabree said...

oh my goodness!!! Congrats!!! How exciting so so happy for you two!

LC said...

congratulations tabitha!

Zoe said...

AHHHHH YAAAAYYY!!!! this is so exciting! I'll drink for you and you can eat tater tots for me, sound good? lol
xx
Z

Kayla said...

What wonderful news! Congratulations to you and Matt!

tess said...

That is so exciting! Congrats and embrace an excuse to wear elastic-waist pants ;)

Sabrina said...

get used tot the elastic pants my dear, they will be the most comfortable thing you will want to live in during the next few months.

I am so happy for you too and I too am glad I now have someone else to share my stories with!!!

DOWNTOWNCHICAGOBARBIE said...

Congratulation on the new edition to your family.... You must be extremely excited

Piper Alexander said...

Congratulations! It was great to see you last night & I loved your get-up, especially the necklace w/the leopard print top!

Johanna said...

Tabitha! I am so excited for you! Congrats to you & Matt! This is going to be such an exciting chapter for you. If you need anything at all - don't hesitate to ask!

EvaNadine said...

congratulations, lady! so happy for you. :)

Hannah said...

I am so happy for you!! Congrats and good luck with everything. You've got plenty of time to read up and get ready for this baby. I'm sure you'll do great. :)

Sandy Caribou said...

YAY CONGRATS!!!!!!!

pearls and green tea said...

Congrats again! It was so great to hang out last night and chitchat about everything from ism to seal's A or B celebrity status! :)

FutureLint said...

Gaaa! So exciting! Congrats, you'll figure it all out, don't worry!

erin♥ said...

Aw, yay! I'm so excited for you and Matt! I've said it before, but I'll say it again: you guys will be the funnest (and funniest) parents on the block :)
Lots of love ♥

Chelsea said...

Congratulations, Tabitha! Awwww... so exciting :) And of course scary. My psychology friend always reminds me that excitement and anxiety are different forms of the same emotion, so it's completely normal to feel so excited and also scared/worried all at once. Anyway... congrats again :)

Laura Go said...

congratulations, Tabitha! this is fantastic news:)

Lisa said...

Woo Hoo! Congrats again! :) I'm a baby dummy, too, and while I profess to know nothing I know you'll be a great mom!

Lucia said...

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!

Sarah vL said...

Congratulations!!! Super, super exciting! :D If you ever need any childcare advice or have any nanny-esque questions, feel free to throw them my way!

Again, congratulations!!! :)

DiamondsandTulle said...

OMG Tab! CONGRATS CONGRATS!!! What GREAT news and a wonderful thing - you'll be having a baby Dragon!

xx Vivian @ http://diamondsandtulle.blogspot.com

P.S. I pin baby stuff ALL the time and not expecting. It's just all so cute - how can you resist?!

Kristy said...

AAAAAAAAAAAHHHH CONGRATS, Tabs! :D

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Alyssa said...

I just shrieked so loud! CONGRATULATIONS TABITHA AND MATT!!! So exciting!!!

Tara @ Haute Lunch said...

Congrats! Very exciting news! You and Sabrina can be preggers together, now! :)

Christen said...

Congratulations! What a lucky kid to have such a stylish future ahead of him/her :)

Keg Design said...

Congratulations!!! :)

Kimberly said...

If its been posted on the blog it must be official! :-) Congrats to you two!

Pamela said...

Congratulations Tabitha!

Kathryn from Schoolmarm Style said...

Hooray for you! This is exciting news.

Jenn Hattan said...

Congratulations! Such exciting news! I am currently on the postpartum floor for my final clinical and love it...all the little newborns and happy parents! You will be great! Also have you heard of the book, "Bump it Up:Transform your pregnancy into the ultimate style statement"? I always buy it for my expecting friends:)

Rebecca said...

Congratulations!

Katie said...

So happy for you Tabitha :) And I still say your Tweet was the best baby announcement I've ever heard.

Goody said...

Congratulations doll!

susan#'s said...

Congratulations! I am 6 weeks postpartum today! Being a Mom is MUCH better than being pregnant!:)

Kyla said...

Congratulations, lady! That's awesome!

Aminata said...

Congratulations!! This is so exciting!

susan#'s said...

Congratulations! I hope you are feeling well!

Mel said...

Congratulations!

A said...

Congratulations! Such wonderful news!

Kristen said...

Awww, congratulations! I wondered when you mentioned something about pregnancy on one of my posts a couple of weeks ago, but I didn't want to ask in case you weren't talking about it yet. Congrats to all 3 of you! :)

Ashleigh said...

I already knew it but it's so fun to see it her!! :) Keep those nursey pins coming!

Samantha said...

Congratulations Tabitha!!! Such sweet news! :)

xo, sam

sharon lei said...

OMG OMG OMG OMG!! CONGRATULATIONS, Tabitha! I'm so stoked for you and Matt. What a wonderful blessing!!! I can't wait to see your belly grow... you will be one hot and stylish preggo momma!! Yay!

:):):):)

xx Love & Aloha

Tina B said...

Many, many congrats to you both! Enjoy each and every moment, even in pregnancy the days fly by :)

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Congratulations to you and your husband. It is a fantastic journey - enjoy it all.

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