Friday, March 30, 2012

life (lahyf) | mwf seeking bff

This is a very overdue post about a fantastic book called MWF seeking BFFThe title is pretty self-explanatory, but to give you a quick summary - the book is about a woman who relocates to Chicago for her husband's job and is in search for friends.  Immediately when I started hearing about this book, I knew right away that it was something I needed to read.  Author Rachel Bertsche had a story to tell, one that I could relate to in so many ways, and I was excited to hear that what I went through during my move to Chicago wasn't an isolated scenario.

As I started reading the book, my first initial reaction was that I could be Rachel's best friend.  Just like me, she moved to Chicago for her husband's job (roughly around the same time I did), loves to dish about celeb gossip and gets excited about watching shows that are meant to be targeted at tweens.  And just like me - she had no friends in Chicago.  I immediately couldn't help but think that Rachel was writing down every single thought in my head.  Not only was she so spot on about having a great husband, who unfortunately couldn't fill the void of great girlfriends, and she captured excitement perfectly when she had great candidates for potential friendship.  The deeper I dove into the book, the more I nodded in agreement.  Moving to a new city, particularly one where you don't know anybody, has it's challenges when making friends.  However, Rachel approached the situation perfectly and had an open mind about the quest for finding life long friendship in her new city.

As someone who has been in Rachel's shoes I can confidently say that her experience is a lot more common than you think it might be.  At the time I was going through it, there were challenges, but much like Rachel did - I put myself out there and worked hard to search for great friends.

For me, if it weren't for blind friend dates, a great work environment, local bloggers and a great organization that brings soon to be mommies together - I would still be in search for my future BFF.  However, since moving here almost 5 years ago I've established such amazing friendships.  Many who are a lot like me and others who have taught me so much about myself that I never knew.  The one thing I've gained from the experience is that you make friendships wherever you go in life.  So long as you put effort in making them, it will never be a hopeless cause.

|Have you experienced the search for new friends? What were some helpful things that helped you in your search?|


Tanvi said...

I have to read this book!!!

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LC said...

i`ve lived in chicago all my life, but i think i still want to pick up this book! sometimes i feel like meeting new friends may be much better, as i`ve learned that "friends" have turned into acquaintances. must pick this up this weekend, thanks for the book recommendation, i`m always looking for a good read.

Johanna said...

Sounds like a good book! Hope you have an awesome weekend!

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Artsy Forager said...

Putting this on my To Read list! My hubby works as a medical traveler and almost one year ago after we'd been married 4 months, I left all of my friends and family and moved with him across the country to the Northwest. Due to the nature of his travel, we move to a new place every 3-6 months, which makes it extremely difficult to establish deep friendships. I feel fortunate that in our current situation, he is working with some really fabulous women who have taken us both under their wings. One of the things I'm most looking forward to when we finally settle in one place out here is having girlfriends again. As much as we love our husbands, they cannot fill all of our needs. Thank you for the recommendation!

dusanabotswana said...

Loooved hearing your outlook on this! Just like keeping up friendships, you've got to put in the work to making them & so great to hear you put yourself out there and made to many great friends. I always keep telling myself to look for cool orgs to meet new ppl but always forget.. a definite disadvantage of being back in a familiar place.