Monday, August 13, 2012

life (layhf) | push present

Push Present, as defined in Wikipedia, is 'a present a father gives a mother to mark the occasion of her giving birth to their child'.  In my own words, it's the gift a father wants to give a mother not only for carrying the child for 9+ months, going through many hours of labor, recovering post-delivery, breastfeeding the child round the clock and covering the night shift because you're breastfeeding at every hour.  Don't get me wrong, my child is a wonderful gift that could never compare to anything materialistic BUT with everything that we women endure throughout and after pregnancy, something to show a little appreciation from our significant other would be a nice gesture.

I've met women (and couples) that have their own opinions about a Push Present.  Some think it has to be an item of extreme value, while others think that the gift itself is completely un-necessary.  While I am a huge advocate of a Push Present, it doesn't have to be something that would put you in financial disarray (which is what I think steers some people away from it).  Sure, there are some pricey items that would make great gifts, but in my opinion it's the thought that counts. 

I never really hinted any particular item to Matt, and didn't really share a list with him.  At one point I really just wanted a Roomba, but unlike making a Christmas wish list, I wanted him to come up with something that would show some sentimental meaning.  However, if I had a list to share it probably would have looked something like this. 


Push Present
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Although I do love the idea of something indulgent like expensive jewelry or a really nice purse, I honestly am the type of person who would much prefer something practical like a new MAC computer or luggage.  But in the end, my husband came through with an AMAZING Push Present that he came up with all on his own (as I suspected he would) - he has booked us a fabulous 10-day European vacation next Spring with stops in Vienna and Barcelona.  I've been dying to go to Spain and I'm so excited that he booked a trip to my #1 destination.  He did good, didn't he?

|What are your thoughts on a Push Present? Do you think they're mandatory or completely un-necessary?  If you're a mother, did your significant other give you a Push Present after giving birth?|

19 comments:

Taylor said...

He did awesome, and I feel like someone needs to make sure my Husband knows, I am going to be needing one of these!!!! Heartfelt 200% price doesn't matter, to me.

caffeinerd said...

Um, that trip sounds amazing!! So much better than a purse, in my book. ;) So nice to have international travel to look forward to.

Katie said...

I think your husband did an amazing job :)

Rebecca said...

I'm not a Mom, but I think that it is always nice to get a new Mom a present.

eek said...

I think a push present is a sweet gesture and something like a fabulous trip is the best!

Kimberly said...

What an amazing gift! That will be a great experience for both of you.

As for push presents - - every mama should get one!

Lisa - respect the shoes said...

I honestly never even heard of push present until it was mentioned on an episode of Real Housewives (I know ...), but I think that is a great gesture. And your hubby's present for you? Hello, perfect!

Token Yankee said...

Oh your husband did great! I believe in push presents (it's a lot of work!), but unfortunately I don't think my husband does!

Johanna said...

Holy crap Matt...can you come over and train my husband. AWESOME Tabitha!

Stephanie said...

Wow - that is awesome!! I didn't ask for a push present and honestly didn't think I'd be getting one, but the hubs surprised me a couple days once we were home with our little one with a David Yurman charm in our little guy's birthstone. I wear it everyday now :) But yea, that doesn't quite compare with a European adventure! Lucky lady!

Zoe Tyler said...

A. Your hubby did and AMAZING job with the push present.
B. When I'm married and going to be popping out a baby, push present is MANDATORY lol

Nessa said...

I like the idea of a push present, but wouldn't expect one myself. I didn't push with my daughter anyway :p
Your husband sure did great with yours though.

Jen @ redsolesandredwine said...

Wow! Seriously, he already got you a push present? Love this post and you have an amazing hubby. What a great magical present. I just got mine :) You'll see it next week.

1smileygirl said...

What a wonderful gift he gave you! I'd like to have a push gift but then again my hubby spoils me all the time with little things here and there. We are done having kids but he keeps talking about wanting a girl. Unfortunately that won't happen because I'm super small (4"10) and have big babies (8lbs 10oz & 9lbs 5oz) and have to have c-sections with both and so I told him if we did have a third, I'd definitely would need the ultimate push present of all time!!!

Meg {henninglove} said...

i think it is a nice gesture for a man to buy a push present, i mean 9 months of carrying their child, all the changes your body endures and then the pain at the end, definitely worth a present

trishie said...

I think the idea of a push present is pretty funny and sweet. It doesn't have to be an expensive present though, i feel.

Ashleigh said...

He did GREAT! And I do love that necklace idea.

Anonymous said...

What an awesome gift! Sounds super fun :)

My husband got me a signature pendant from Juno Lucina, yay! http://www.jlucina.com

Sabrina said...

I didn't want a gift, but Brandon surprised me a month after the baby was born with a tablet. know that I have it I don't know how I would of survived the late night feedings without it. I can watch tv on it at 4AM, play games with friends, and take tons of pictures. It is the best gift that I could imagine as a new mom.